"If I have to repeat myself one more time...."

... then I will do it kindly and with love. These little people running around my house are much like I was as a child. I was full of questions, curiosity, wonder, and energy. I know for a fact that I drove my mother nuts until I learned to keep my thoughts to myself, and yet, once I learned that skill, I had no-one to interupt those thoughts with facts and enlightenment.

I am enjoying these days with my children. Days where learning is happening with every blink, and often it is happening not for just one kid at a time, but all 5 gaining something from 1 shared experience. I might get frazzled and frustrated. I might have to save a blog post and let the child have my hard found quiet place so that she too, can think. I may even loose my temper on occasion, but my children all know that I love them dearly, and that I enjoy having them "underfoot".

Up until about 5 minutes ago, I had "liked" a page on FB. The page with a revolutionary idea on child rearing, a page promoting peaceful parenting and harmony in discipline (a very lack of discipline, really). They have some mind bending thoughts on parenting and I was enjoying the mental challenge of why Ido what I do. I thought I was doing some of it, and that I could learn quite a bit from them on making it work out for us too. I know I am not the only person in the world trying to find a more peaceful way to parent where kids learn responcibility and ethics and values without having physical punishment as the only rason to DO it all.

You see, there lis the problem. Someone who was trying to learn, asked a very legit question. I understood the question, the reasons, and WHAT that person was asking.

"How will my child become a good solid citizen with good work ethics, morals and everything I value, if I don't teach it the same way I learned it?" (The question is rephrased, obviously)

Instead of giving this person a very heartfelt and understanding answer, this person was made out to be a horrid abusing *person* who was setting thier children up for marital abuse and rape. REALLY???!!!???  I was dumbfounded by their attacks, blown away by their testimonies of demeaning scenarios and saddened by the hearts and hurts of their own inner children that didn't understand their own childhoods. They used this persons' question to let their pain and anguish out, and gave NO ANSWERS to the very real question of:

"How do you raise good people, nonabusively?"

I had to un-like the page. While the page creator has given me much to ponder, the allowed freedoms of their followers leaves too much verbal abuse and constant "troll hunts" and accusations for anyone wanting to peacefully learn something new. Kind of sad, really.

I think that as I have time, I will address this person's question, here on my blog, and I will pray that somehow, someday, they will find the answers they are looking for, given with thought, kindness, consideration, and respect.