This morning has been quiet and fun. I woke up at 6 am to the 2 youngest crawling in bed with me, and took care of their morning requests, while they drifted back to sleep. Since my mind was already spinning with ideas and thoughts for the day, I went out and filled my coffee mug. I had thought ahead last night, and set it to turn on at 6:00 am, By the time I "found" it, it was warm and ready for me. I am always a little happier when I can bypass the microwave.
I poked my morning things, checked on my stats, and approved a comment. Ahh! I had no idea how much a kind comment on one of my posts can warm my heart! <3 I poked my morning games as I listened to the stirrings of the house. The dogs were patrolling the yard for invading birds and squirrels and coming in to report to the sleeping master. The bathroom was a cacophony of destruction from the playful antics of the 3 kittens. Giggles, mumbles and half-hearted cries of protest would escape the small slumbering forms around me.
At 8 am, it was time to feed the kittens, and we had them fed in the kitchen before allowing them their play and roam time. Somehow, that turns into hiding kitten sleeping time, and none can be found for hours. Patience, focus, and remembering the rules is exceptionally hard when there is a fluffy kitten playing peek-a-boo when you are only 4 and 2. I had to coax the stripey one out, I am working on human desensitization with him, and I had to scoop and remove the other 2 kittens from stealing his food.... They were all surprised, him the most, because of once the big fast hands weren't after him. *grin* It's all about making friends.
After the house was up, and my hunny was off on his way to work, I put together the plan I had been working towards. I pulled out the bin of middle sized interlocking blocks for the kids to play with. I pulled out the specialty pieces and put together a few of the trees and things. By the time I had discovered all of the vehicle bottoms, I had 3 kids all around the table, building and exchanging parts and one wandering around with her favorite Puppy piece.
I went out and Ladybug came and inspected the garden with me. She exclaimed over the one cherry tomato turning yellow, and thought about what that might mean. We noted the differences in the leaves of the plants that we were having trouble with, how the old growth looked pale or crumpled, and how the new growth was dark green and healthy. We estimated how much good growth there was, and counted flowers on various plants. I added Epsom salt, coffee grounds and crushed egg shells to the soil (in addition to yesterday's crushed antacid tablets).
Now I have the hose watering the yard for me. Yup, I locked into the on position, and set it on a stand as an instant mister and yard watering devise. The leaky spots water other areas, and one is filling the paddling pool. By Wednesday, the ground should be perfect for setting up the campground. The kids are getting excited; they cannot focus on anything else because of it. That reminds me, I need to go turn off the water in the front yard. I am sure the baby tree and full front section is good and watered by now.
We have more projects to do, more plans to think up, more lists to write, and tasks to mark off. I expect that this week will be hard work, and yet worth every moment. I think the best part is that camping has no reception, so even if they did smuggle electronics, I have the WiFi password, and all the chargers. HEHEHEHEHE (Yea, I know it's in our backyard. We are going to have fun. Consider it a dry run for later.)
I need more dirt for my garden....
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Monday, May 20, 2013
Saturday, April 20, 2013
Toddler Stages: "Mine!"
Early this morning, while I was waking up, I was scrolling through my FB news feed, seeing what's happened since I went to bed. I know I am not alone in this morning ritual. I get my coffee, I check the weather and the calendar, turn off the morning alarm, and sit down to sip my steaming brew. It's easy enough to find myself "liking" several photos, articles, and various posts from my friends on the other side (country or world). If I get up early enough, I get to see the posts made in the late night hours from my Australian friends, and catch posts from Europe as they are shared. I enjoy this time, as my family is all still deep asleep, and I can just be.
This morning, I came across this gem:
We've all seen this, and laughed. We can easily identify with this, as we have ALL seen a 2 year old at one point or another. Sometimes, their understanding of their little world is so stinkin' cute! Unfortunately, some of us have also seen this mentality in grown adults. I can assure you, it is most definitely NOT cute at 15, 25, 45, or even 85!
Developmentally, the "mine" stage kicks in unprompted at about 16 months old. It can be earlier, it can be later, but rest assured, by 18 months they will have a FIRM grasp of what their possessions are. They are watching the world around them, and absorbing how it all worked. Perhaps Momma took the phone away with the words, "No, this is mine". It only takes one time of showing how 'mine' works, before you have a tiny possessive monster on your hands.
I wrote this, when I shared the meme:
"Yes, diffusing "mine" in toddlers and turning it into sharing and friendship is an uphill battle that must be won.
Adding an extra toddler into the mix, who is 6 months younger with no siblings brings the battle back, almost in instant replay. A little more than 1 month in, and I can honestly say, the end of the battle is in sight."
Then I realized that if I finished that train of thought on FB, I would have nothing to blog about. so I left the FB people hanging, and maybe even waiting to read what I am writing now. ;)
I watch a 17 month old little girl while her mother is working. Earlier in the blog, I named her Jumping Bean, and that name is going to stick for now. She has been with us for a little over a month, and has learned SO MUCH in the last month. She learned a few things before coming here, also. These things are what we struggle with on a daily basis sometimes, until she finally decides that it's easier to go play nice. This post is not about any of that though, just about "Mine!" battles.
My 2 yo loves her friend dearly, and looks for her and sometimes even cries for her when she is not here but there are times when she is so frustrated and mad too. She doesn't understand that Jumping Bean hasn't learned these hard lessons we just learned 6 months ago. Wild Boy doesn't understand that Jumping Bean is like him, curious, excited and full of energy. She wants to do everything he does, just like his little sister. Jumping Bean is always happy to come over, and curious to learn how to play like the other kids do. She can run the obstacle course like you wouldn't believe!!
As I said in my post on FB though, Jumping Bean has come a long way. One of the things I first noticed, was that everything in my house is "ours", and only the items in JB's diaper bag were truly HERS. She's 6 months behind Sarah in development, and in clothing sizes, so I have started her her own little dresser that I have filled with clothing for her to wear. Yes, she goes through 1-4 outfits in 9 hours. I have a backyard, and she is very active and curious. Did I mention FAST? I cleaned out the little girls' room last week, and pulled out a lot of the baby books and baby toys. I have 2 drawers in the living room dedicated to LR toys, and I am working on making the bottom drawer toys that Jumping Bean likes. The books went in a basket.
I defend all children equally here. I pay attention to who is playing with what toy with what toy, and I am already working on passing out duplicates of things to encourage good side by side and possibly interactive play. I have to keep things kinda fair, and yet the moment we have melt down and a tantrum happens all bets are off. Tantrums are not acceptable. I have taught many words and signs, I pay constant attention to baby body language and cues. I feed on demand, and I cuddle too. The basic needs are kept met, almost before the child needs it. I won't let any one child "take" from another, but I encourage them to share constantly.
Wild boy has learned to let the little girls play with the desired toy for a moment, because they only want it for a little bit, and then drop it and move on. He has learned to negotiate with them too. Instead of crying and screaming that a little one has taken his favorite flashlight, he now runs off and finds something that particular baby likes BETTER then what he had swiped from him. He kindly offers to trade them and happily bounces away with his prize. The baby girls see this kindness and sharing of belongings and self control of emotions, and learn to find ways to do the same. Jumping Bean and Flutters have been seen bringing drinks to each other, or retrieving favorite blankets for each other.
We still have battles. Some toys or joys will inspire the beginnings of WW3 if I am not present and on the ball. It is dangerous to my baby if things are yanked out of her hands, so I can have no lack of diligence on my part in this life lesson. Diffusing the situation, distraction, communication, and absolute boundaries WILL get your toddlers past this milestone in peer to peer interactions and friendships. It's our job to guide them through it, with kindness, love, and leadership.
This morning, I came across this gem:
We've all seen this, and laughed. We can easily identify with this, as we have ALL seen a 2 year old at one point or another. Sometimes, their understanding of their little world is so stinkin' cute! Unfortunately, some of us have also seen this mentality in grown adults. I can assure you, it is most definitely NOT cute at 15, 25, 45, or even 85!
Developmentally, the "mine" stage kicks in unprompted at about 16 months old. It can be earlier, it can be later, but rest assured, by 18 months they will have a FIRM grasp of what their possessions are. They are watching the world around them, and absorbing how it all worked. Perhaps Momma took the phone away with the words, "No, this is mine". It only takes one time of showing how 'mine' works, before you have a tiny possessive monster on your hands.
I wrote this, when I shared the meme:
"Yes, diffusing "mine" in toddlers and turning it into sharing and friendship is an uphill battle that must be won.
Adding an extra toddler into the mix, who is 6 months younger with no siblings brings the battle back, almost in instant replay. A little more than 1 month in, and I can honestly say, the end of the battle is in sight."
Then I realized that if I finished that train of thought on FB, I would have nothing to blog about. so I left the FB people hanging, and maybe even waiting to read what I am writing now. ;)
I watch a 17 month old little girl while her mother is working. Earlier in the blog, I named her Jumping Bean, and that name is going to stick for now. She has been with us for a little over a month, and has learned SO MUCH in the last month. She learned a few things before coming here, also. These things are what we struggle with on a daily basis sometimes, until she finally decides that it's easier to go play nice. This post is not about any of that though, just about "Mine!" battles.
My 2 yo loves her friend dearly, and looks for her and sometimes even cries for her when she is not here but there are times when she is so frustrated and mad too. She doesn't understand that Jumping Bean hasn't learned these hard lessons we just learned 6 months ago. Wild Boy doesn't understand that Jumping Bean is like him, curious, excited and full of energy. She wants to do everything he does, just like his little sister. Jumping Bean is always happy to come over, and curious to learn how to play like the other kids do. She can run the obstacle course like you wouldn't believe!!
As I said in my post on FB though, Jumping Bean has come a long way. One of the things I first noticed, was that everything in my house is "ours", and only the items in JB's diaper bag were truly HERS. She's 6 months behind Sarah in development, and in clothing sizes, so I have started her her own little dresser that I have filled with clothing for her to wear. Yes, she goes through 1-4 outfits in 9 hours. I have a backyard, and she is very active and curious. Did I mention FAST? I cleaned out the little girls' room last week, and pulled out a lot of the baby books and baby toys. I have 2 drawers in the living room dedicated to LR toys, and I am working on making the bottom drawer toys that Jumping Bean likes. The books went in a basket.
I defend all children equally here. I pay attention to who is playing with what toy with what toy, and I am already working on passing out duplicates of things to encourage good side by side and possibly interactive play. I have to keep things kinda fair, and yet the moment we have melt down and a tantrum happens all bets are off. Tantrums are not acceptable. I have taught many words and signs, I pay constant attention to baby body language and cues. I feed on demand, and I cuddle too. The basic needs are kept met, almost before the child needs it. I won't let any one child "take" from another, but I encourage them to share constantly.
Wild boy has learned to let the little girls play with the desired toy for a moment, because they only want it for a little bit, and then drop it and move on. He has learned to negotiate with them too. Instead of crying and screaming that a little one has taken his favorite flashlight, he now runs off and finds something that particular baby likes BETTER then what he had swiped from him. He kindly offers to trade them and happily bounces away with his prize. The baby girls see this kindness and sharing of belongings and self control of emotions, and learn to find ways to do the same. Jumping Bean and Flutters have been seen bringing drinks to each other, or retrieving favorite blankets for each other.
We still have battles. Some toys or joys will inspire the beginnings of WW3 if I am not present and on the ball. It is dangerous to my baby if things are yanked out of her hands, so I can have no lack of diligence on my part in this life lesson. Diffusing the situation, distraction, communication, and absolute boundaries WILL get your toddlers past this milestone in peer to peer interactions and friendships. It's our job to guide them through it, with kindness, love, and leadership.
Thursday, April 4, 2013
Jumping Bean and Flutters
I woke up this morning at 6:45 am, to a tiny wild child wide awake and ready to explore everything. I am not a morning person, but the last 3 weeks has been working on resetting my body clock (I hope). We got up and talked about everyone still sleeping, about the bird, the rabbit, the dogs, the fish, the window, the rain, the TV (nope, didn't want that) and anything else I could think of to interest her for just one moment. If I had been wise, I would have set my coffee pot up last night, so that I could just flip the switch as I was making that last special milk bottle this morning. I did finally get my coffee, but it wasn't until after 8.
I've been watching a tiny 16 month old toddler for the last 3 weeks, as her mother suddenly found herself alone and struggling to hold things together. In this economy, it could have taken her months or even years to land a job. She was blown away when she returned from her first day of job hunting with not just a job, but full time hours at that. I had offered long ago, that if she needed child care, to let me know, and her baby would fit right in with my crew. This little one is allergic to milk, and we've been trying to find a milk replacement for her that is affordable and equally beneficial. I suspect this tiny one is about to have a growth spurt.
I love having her here, and it's been amusing to watch her and my own toddler learn how to get along and problem solve and share with friends. They have both learned things from each other, good and bad. Things like sharing, caring, empathy, and kindness. Things like hitting, taking, yelling, and pushing. Little tiny one~ let's call her Jumping Bean, and my own toddler Flutters to make this easier. Jumping Bean has learned to communicate, not just by grunts and full body writhing, but had picked up 4-5 signs, 5-10 words, and the ability to communicate wants by demonstrating or pointing. Flutters has decided that babies say Goo Goo Ga Ga, and spends lots of time insisting that she is a baby, unless of course it's baby bath time, in which she goes running down the hall yelling "You can't catch me!!"
Jumping Bean gets dropped off very early in my morning, between 4:30 and 6 am most days. She comes in and snuggles up and takes a 'wake up nap' until about 7:30. Then she is off and running and ready to explore. She's already learned how to move the big sliding glass door, she knows how to make the dog's Lick-it dribble water into the kitchen toys, and she LOVES the slide. Some mornings we have changed her entire outfit 3 times before noon!! Today, it is raining. She does not care, it is outside, and she can get out there "all by my self".... she's led us on a few giggling chases through the warm rain.
It is time for me to get busy. I have lessons to teach, and a menu to plan, a grocery list to make, and cleaning to be done. I pray you have a wonderful day! G*d Bless you!
I've been watching a tiny 16 month old toddler for the last 3 weeks, as her mother suddenly found herself alone and struggling to hold things together. In this economy, it could have taken her months or even years to land a job. She was blown away when she returned from her first day of job hunting with not just a job, but full time hours at that. I had offered long ago, that if she needed child care, to let me know, and her baby would fit right in with my crew. This little one is allergic to milk, and we've been trying to find a milk replacement for her that is affordable and equally beneficial. I suspect this tiny one is about to have a growth spurt.
I love having her here, and it's been amusing to watch her and my own toddler learn how to get along and problem solve and share with friends. They have both learned things from each other, good and bad. Things like sharing, caring, empathy, and kindness. Things like hitting, taking, yelling, and pushing. Little tiny one~ let's call her Jumping Bean, and my own toddler Flutters to make this easier. Jumping Bean has learned to communicate, not just by grunts and full body writhing, but had picked up 4-5 signs, 5-10 words, and the ability to communicate wants by demonstrating or pointing. Flutters has decided that babies say Goo Goo Ga Ga, and spends lots of time insisting that she is a baby, unless of course it's baby bath time, in which she goes running down the hall yelling "You can't catch me!!"
Jumping Bean gets dropped off very early in my morning, between 4:30 and 6 am most days. She comes in and snuggles up and takes a 'wake up nap' until about 7:30. Then she is off and running and ready to explore. She's already learned how to move the big sliding glass door, she knows how to make the dog's Lick-it dribble water into the kitchen toys, and she LOVES the slide. Some mornings we have changed her entire outfit 3 times before noon!! Today, it is raining. She does not care, it is outside, and she can get out there "all by my self".... she's led us on a few giggling chases through the warm rain.
It is time for me to get busy. I have lessons to teach, and a menu to plan, a grocery list to make, and cleaning to be done. I pray you have a wonderful day! G*d Bless you!
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